sunday update

Sorry it has been so long since I've written, but in this case no news is (mostly) good news. Calvin is still up to his usual antics—drooling, biting every surface possible, putting his hands in my face, grabbing me, at times dropping down in stubborn refusal. Good news is he has gone almost eight weeks without any seizures. Since starting a drug called Xcopri over two years ago, Calvin has had several long seizure-free stints, one of which approached four months. In that time we've been able to reduce his only other epilepsy medication. He is still very restless during the day, and I am weighing whether to put him on an ADHD drug called Intuniv, which his neurologist recommended. But, despite his restlessness, for months he has been super sweet, loving, compliant and smiley, and it is hella fun to bring him to the grocery store every day and to take him on long relaxing car rides which we both relish.

Sadly, I accidentally shut Calvin's pinkie finger in the car door and broke it at the very tip a couple of weeks ago. We got his hand x-rayed and saw the orthopedic surgeon who told me that my instinct not to splint Calvin's finger to the adjacent finger was a good one since Calvin clenches his fists constantly. Hearing that relieved me. When he gets hurt I feel physically sick, like when he got his hip (femur) broken at school two years ago because of a couple of complacent and neglectful aides, and when he suffered ungodly pain from gallstones. Poor Calvin has to endure so much.

But going longer between seizures is something huge to celebrate. It's not only good for Calvin's brain but it means that he doesn't miss nearly as much school, which is good for him and for me (he's got a new teacher and new aides.) I've been spending my time when he's in school running, a sport I began in earnest just over two years ago. I've enjoyed some small and fun successes—5k, 10k, 10-mile, half marathon—and met some lovely people most of whom have become friends. For the past several months I've been training for the New York City Half Marathon, which is a week from today! I am running as a fundraiser for the American Cancer Society in honor of my father and so many others, and my goal is to raise $15,000 by next Sunday. I am very close to achieving that goal. If you'd like to donate to my campaign, now is the time and here is the link:


Right now, Michael is on a two-break from teaching. In late May he begins a year's sabbatical, during which he will be attending a couple of artist residencies and working toward publishing his fourth photo book. We continue to enjoy his amazing dinners, most all of them recipes from the New York Times. I'm still making my famous salad every single night. We've hosted a few small dinner parties and have been guests at a few, too. Gathering with friends is a good distraction from caring so hypervigilantly for Calvin. And, Mary, Calvin's former school aide and buddy, has been helping us take care of him a little, as well as Caroline who is another good aide we recently found.

Suffice to say I feel very grateful these days that some things have figuratively calmed down with Calvin, who has just under two years left at the high school. In the meantime we have to figure out what the hell we are going to do with him after he "graduates" since most programs do not fund one-on-one care, which is essential to Calvin's safety.

So that's it in a nutshell. Thank you all for your love, interest, concern. I'd love to hear from you.

1 comment:

  1. Good to hear! Miss u…let’s chat soon!